The Correct Bra Size

Many a times when i visit a shooping mall or a lingerie shop to buy my inners, i still feel like a shy teenager buying the stuff for the first time. I feel tongue tied to inquire about the lingerie brands, fabric, styles and most importantly the correct size. Like others i also end up grabbing a package of 6 cotton briefs or a bra off the sales rack --most often without even trying it on. Or, if i go to a lingerie store offering a bra-fitting service - only to find out later that the fit just doesn't feel right, or doesn't look very good under clothing.

We should have on-hand beautiful, well-constructed lingerie that supports and enhances the body. You'd be surprised at the confidence you can feel when you're comfortable and when you know that the lingerie you're wearing next to your skin looks as good as the clothing you wear over it.

The hardest part of purchasing lingerie that fits well and looks good is knowing what to look for. There are so many choices in fabric, style and size to choose from today. Wearing the right bra size is just as important as choosing the right bra style. So, how long has it been since you've checked your bra size?

Many factors affect our bust measurements, such as pregnancy, exercise, birth control pills and weight fluctuations. Did you know the average woman wears six different bra sizes throughout her life? All things considered, it will be worth your while to grab a tape measure and check your size

If you own a bra that fits you well, that bra represents your correct bra size. That bra also represents a good brand for you. Every lingerie manufacturer has their unique take on fit. Like shoes, if you find a brand that fits and is comfortable, chances are their other styles will fit you as well. You should look to that brand first before venturing out to others.

A bra fitting expert showed me and my friends how to know your correct bra size and find yourself a comfortable brand.

It follows step by step

Get a soft measuring tape.

This is the only type of measuring tape that can be used for accurate measurements.

Step #2: Take off your bra.

The measurements you take will be much more accurate if your bra is off. Almost all women wear cup sizes that are too small which smashes the breasts down causing the measurement to seem smaller than they really are. If your breasts hang or sag, just try and get someone to help you so that you can prop your breasts up while measuring. If you really need to, just take the measurements with a bra on. The size will still be a lot closer than anything you have been wearing and the fit a whole lot better. And if you need help or feel the numbers are just not making sense, just take BOTH measurements, one with the bra on and one with the bra off and call us and we will help you determine the best size.

Step #3: Measure underneath your rib cage.

This measurement will help you determine your band size. So measure right underneath your breasts where a bra band would normally sit. Make sure that you keep the tape level all the way around and pull the two sided together until they meet and lie flat against your body. Do not pull it too tightly but it does need to be somewhat snug. Whatever number you get here, in almost all cases just needs to be rounded up to the nearest even number. So if the measurement is 33 than you would just round up to 34. Very easy. But there is one exception to this rule. If you measure 34 1/4 or even 34 ½, you should round down to 34 instead. The reason for this is simple. Bras lose elasticity every time you wear them so the fit will only get less and less supportive the longer you wear the bra. So when you first purchase a bra it needs to feel snug but not too tight on the LOOSEST hook. Then as the bra stretches from wear, you can move the hooks in tighter to maintain a higher level of support longer. If you buy a bra and need to wear it on the tightest hook from the start, you have nowhere to go but to buy a new one when it starts getting stretched out. For a bra to be supportive, you must wear the correct band size.

Step #4: Measure across the widest part of your bust line. (NEVER MEASURE UNDER YOUR ARM PITS AND UP OVER THE TOP OF YOUR BREASTS AND NEVER ADD INCHES.)

Just measure across your nipples at the widest part of your breasts. Nothing at all needs to be done to this number except rounding it up if the measurement falls between two numbers. So if you measure 41 ½ just round it to 42. That is it. Nothing else.Step # 5 Do a little math.Now take the number from step 4 and subtract the number from step 3. This then gives you a cup size to go along with the band size that was determined earlier. The band size we had earlier was 34 and for the above example the bust measurement was a 42. So you have 42-34 = 8.So you have a band size of 34 and an 8 inch difference for the cup size so your bra size is a 34H.

Each number represents a cup size as the chart below details.1 = A2 = B3 = C4 = D5 = DD(E)6 = F(DDD)7 = G8 = H9 = I10= Jetc. etc.

Now you have a size that will fit you so much better and support you so much better and make you look so much better than anything you have ever worn before.

Imprisoned Childhood

Do you remember your own carefree childhood days?

How u enjoyed playing in the open, running after butterflies, plucking flowers, enjoying the fresh air and making mudcakes and castles. A lot of children used to gather from the neighbourhood and you all played simple games like hide and seek and catch me. How you and ur friends used to love being in the midst of nature and make the most of your freedom to play in the open.

I remember being overjoyed at the very thought of going to our ancestral house in the village. It was an occasion we used to look forward to- the open feilds, the soft breeze, the tall trees, the lucid lake, the carefree spirit of nature inviting us to embrace it in its full glory and bloom.

But what has happened to that carefree world, the world which brought them closer to nature?

Today children would rather be on their own.'Leave me alone' , they seem to be screaming. Computer games, bowling alleys, robotic toys, and the TV sets have an overpowering effect on their minds.Children today prefer gizmos to meeting friends.

They say playing in the open fosters children's imagination and dexterity and helps them reach important physical, cognitive, and emotional milestones and manage stress.

Parents should emphasize the benefits of playing in the open, encourage them to interact more with nature and play with "true toys" such as blocks and dolls, in which children fully use their imagination, over passive toys such as video games that require limited imagination.

Schools should create a play environment with a large variety of loose parts, which encourage creativity and discovery.It is rightly said that "Natural spaces and materials stimulate children’s limitless imaginations and serve as the medium of inventiveness and creativity,"

Even in cities dotted with parks, children don’t have that many chances to interact with nature. To counteract this problem, a growing number of planners and educators are creating wonderful new play areas where children can roll down green slopes and climb rocks sheltered by trees. These green playgrounds offer many advantages in a culture in which children — urban, suburban and even rural — are more likely to know the names of video-game characters than the names of the creatures and plants in their own neighborhoods.

The lives of children today are much different. Children today have few opportunities for free play and regular contact with the natural world. Their physical boundaries have shrunk due to a number of factors. A 'culture of fear' has parents afraid for their children's safety. Due to 'stranger danger', many children are no longer free to roam their neighborhoods or even their own yards unless accompanied by adults. Many working families can't supervise their children after school, giving rise to latchkey children who stay indoors or attend supervised after-school activities. Furthermore, children's lives have become structured and scheduled by adults, who hold the mistaken belief that this sport or that lesson will make their children more successful as adults .

The culture of childhood that played outside is gone and children's everyday life has shifted to the indoors . As a result, children's opportunity for direct and spontaneous contact with nature is a vanishing experience of childhood. One researcher has gone so far as to refer to this sudden shift in children's lives and their loss of free play in the outdoors as a 'childhood of imprisonment' (Francis 1991). Childhood and regular play in the natural world is no longer synonymous. Pyle (1993) calls this the 'extinction of experience', which breeds apathy towards environmental concerns.

Kellert (2002) says society today has become "so estranged from its natural origins, it has failed to recognize our species' basic dependence on nature as a condition of growth and development."

Reading Can Be Rewarding

Is there anything that you can do to encourage your children to read?

It's helpful to know your child's reasons for not liking or wanting to read.

These reasons can help you decide what will work best in motivating your child to discover or rediscover how much fun reading can be.

Kids are busy. School, friends, sports, homework, television, and chores all compete for their time. Some children need your help in rearranging their schedules to make time for reading.
Under pressure, children may read only to please their parents rather than themselves, or they may turn around and refuse to read altogether

While there's nothing wrong with rewarding the child's reading efforts. Whenever possible, offer another book or magazine (your child's choice) along with words of praise. You can give other meaningful rewards on occasion, but offer them less and less frequently. In time, your child will experience reading as its own reward.

Often children don't appreciate how reading can be purposeful, or relevant to their lives. Parents can take it upon themselves to find reading materials on subjects that do matter to their kids.

Reading can be very rewarding. Cultivate the habit of reading.Not only children but we should also get inspired to read.It help us to penn down our thoughts and be a critic. When you read a book it not only helps you to frame views and opinions on a particular subject but also creates a positive thinking mind. It widens our horizon and the new words add weight to your vocabulary kit.

My father would always advice us to read in our free time . He used to say that reading can uplift your inner spirits and fill ur mind with sublime thoughts. Of couse he was a avid reader and still is.

So start the reading habit from today and also introduce ur child to the simple pleasures and joys of reading. But dont turn reading into a campaign.

A Song Of Love

MY songs of love undending,

Mystical portrayals of life

of god within me

Hymns to joy, Beauty, love-

earthly music accompanying

I sing-

The clouds are my hair

The earth my embroynic bed

green fields my bridal gown

I dance

I dance and dance

Till my soul becomes

A gleaming mirror of Life

Where visible is the invisible

About Nothing

The other day i came across an old friend of the family, a sort of universal 'Uncle' smoking leisurely on a bench in the park just opposite the secretariat building. He appeared to be peroccupied with the antics of the bee which true to its nature, flew from flower to flower.

"Hello Uncle", i said, what are you doing here? Uncle took along time to come out of his reverie and i had to touch him lightly to make him aware of my presence. Even then he seemed far away for as he tried to focus his attention on me."Oh its you", "Yes its me" i replied. "But what are you doing here all alone ? "Nothing" came the answer, still staring into the wide horizon. After a brief silence--"Nothing just thinking", he replied." Thinking about what uncle?", i asked. Still staring at the space he replied "About Nothing". I seemed to be getting nowhere with him and his nothingness. It was as though i was participating in one of those absurd plays like"Waiting for Godot", where nothing actually happens.

I later realized it was better to leave him in his tiny island of stillness where nothing existed except the self.

Look Before You Leap Into Marriage

Two People enter into a marriage hardly knowing each other nor do they take the time to get to know one another before they begin a life long journey down a road that often leads to divorce. Things change and people change when the security of the commitment is tied together by a marriage certificate. People relax into their old habits which were carefully put away during the dating or lack of dating and instant relationship began.

Many couples today are young people who become infatuated with each other thinking they have found true love. Tender puppy love sets in and next thing you know they have found the experience of a sexual encounter. What, in most cases spurs them to hold on to what they think is love is the distain or disapproval of either of the parents. So they jump into a marriage when they are old enough because they want to prove mom and dad wrong. Or friends for that matter who have expressed a disliking to the partner their friend has chosen.

Loneliness is a great motivator for two people to jump into a relationship and/or marriage. With divorce rate percentages much higher than before especially in middle age couples, people react to attention and latch onto a person because of the void they now have in their lives. After months or years in a relationship or marriage and the comfort of a partner, many people find themselves very lonely. At the first sign of attention or affection they move quickly toward the comfortable feeling of another relationship so that the loneliness goes away. Unfortunately they again find themselves lonely because they married someone they did not really know and who they may not be compatible with.

Spice Up Your Marriage or Love Relationship

Enduring love relationships or marriages demand some attention and tender love regularly so that they can stay growing, strong, and revitalized. If you believe long term and marriage relationships can stay alive if you don't feed them, you're wrong.

To keep the love you have alive, you've got to give the time to developing and growing that love, however it fits into the dynamic of your relationship.An aspect of long-term intimate and marriage relationships that often fades away after so many years of being together is physical attraction. Some couples discover that their love making grows routine and ordinary. They also could discover that they are so busy with kids, jobs or other activities that they simply don't have much time or energy for a lot of intimacy with each other. These couples let their physical relationship be shoved to the back burner and allow other responsibilities and activities to replace really being together.

Invigorating your marriage or love relationship starts with developing a connection between you, and that can be done in several ways. It takes devotion and commitment to creating this type of connection and a willingness to permit what's happened in the past remain in the past. This demands being honest and candid about what you feel, and will mean a fresh start in making love with each other. To invigorate passion and love, it might be a help to you to do activities that both of you used to enjoy with each other but don't do anymore. It might also mean trying something new and different with each other that would help you establish the feeling of togetherness and companionship like you felt before.

Creating more spice and deeper love in your long term relationship or marriage can be done, and much easier than you may think. Make a decision today that you desire and want to have a more rewarding relationship. Begin right now to allow more passion and love in your relationship and see how it starts to change, and for the better. Start right now to build what you want for life.

Legal Cover for Sex Workers

If are really into intelligent tv watching then It is always inspiring to watch Barkha Dutt in action be it reporting live for NDTV or debating on variety of topics on the show We the People. The show voices peoples opinion on issues that touch our lives.
If u see a particular topic hitting the headlines frequently in a week, you can be sure it is going to be debated by her and her panelist every sunday.Through this show she brings national headlines into the drawing room of the comman man to be discussed and debated with some very excitable audience members, some very controversial panelists and in their midst is a very articulate and control host-Barkha Dutt.Since the time I’ve been watching, the show has discussed a variety of topics from the form of the Indian cricket team, to the inclusion of VandeMataram in school curriculums, to the depiction of modern day Indian marriages in movies (KANK), to the decriminalisation of homosexuality, to the relevance of women wearing a veil in this day and age.

The topic of discussion one sunday was the new law proposed for our so called sex workers. The legal experts term it as 'Decriminalising Prostitution'--legalising prostitution.

But what are we talking about here. To the laymen the topic will itself sound so ridiculous and absurd. How many parents would want their children to be employed as a sex worker. How many would allow its offices to flourish in our neighbourhood. Prostitution cannot be a profession in a civilized society.It will pave the way for social evil and more diseases. It will give men more freedom to stray and exploit women.It will ridicule the institution of marriage and make it more vulnerable to divorce. Many viewed this new law as a step to create, exploit and criminalise prostitution to cover its won hypocricy.
But if one would also look at the other side of the new law there is no denying that it will not only provide legal rights to the sex workers but lend dignity to prostitution by removing the social stigma attached to this oldest profession. The law should be strict to traffickers and empower the women who are in this business.Forced or free prostitution has been going on in our indian soiciety for years, we cannot stop it so its better its regulated and legalised. As my dear friend argued the other day if we can sell our brains to a company whats the harm in selling our bodies. All said and done the law should not undermine the life and work of the women as a parent, caregiver and sex worker. It should enable the sex worker to access their rights and legal services to fight any violence that they experience from the employers, the police, clients and co-workers.